When an appointment at school

Your daughter comes home from school in tears, and very distressed. Is it time to make an appointment with the teacher or address? You do not like to exaggerate, but do not want your baby to suffer anymore.

There are situations that need immediate attention and intervention at the highest level, and there are other times when it is better to wait a bit. There are also problems that your daughter is able to solve without much help.

How to measure the urgency? Here are some tips that can help you.


Talks immediately and get an appointment tomorrow in the following situations.

If your daughter comes home with welts, cuts and bites or school sends you not tell what happened, it is a potentially serious situation. Although your daughter tell you their version, it is important that you contact with school authorities and comply with its obligation to keep you informed of any accident or injury suffered by your daughter at school.

If nobody noticed, it is even more worrying, and if the problem was treated in school, you have every right to have the relevant information at the time.

Be present to be able to require the necessary information and make sure your child is safe.

We know that classroom teachers work in confined spaces with children. However, it is never permissible for the master paste, push or pat children.

If the physical treatment of the teacher bothers your daughter and tells you, you stay no doubt. Speech and make an appointment with management.

You can say you know it’s a sensitive issue that threatens the credibility of the teacher, but you need to tell that something is wrong and must be corrected immediately.

The teacher-student relationship is professional and the teacher must always respect the physical integrity of children in their care.

It is always appropriate and legitimate communicate discomfort of your child in these cases, and the school must take immediate action on the matter, bringing a visible solution: the teacher apologizes and does not return to happen, or the master is changed.

In any school, adults are required to create a respectful environment where students feel safe.

Is totally inappropriate for an adult to a child addressed aggressively in school, insults or threats, because it is an abuse of power.

He speaks immediately to inform and demand respect for your daughter, since it is essential that you feel quiet and protected within school spaces.

When children are under five years it is very important to treat the “little” things at the time not to become larger.

If your daughter comes crying and does not want to go to school for any reason, make an appointment for the school to be informed and school authorities can work together with you to reassure your child.

For the first time, your daughter is in an environment that does not belong, and it is important to communicate with the teacher or address when something happens so that everyone can support it with whatever you need.

Obviously, the bigger your daughter, the greater the number of problems it can handle, and everything is not so urgent.


Wait a bit to see what happens.

Especially between the ages of 5 and 8 years children are premiering social situations that may be challenging. If the “best friend” wanted to play with somebody else, it is a painful but not fatal situation.

Advise she also look for other friends to play occasionally. Explain that friends do not have, are enjoyed, and that everyone has the right to have many friends.

Help him by inviting several children to play at home (one at a time, not to make partner with someone else and ignore your daughter).

If the problem for several weeks and does not diminish the suffering persists, then seek an appointment with the teacher and school psychologist who can help your daughter out of the quagmire.

Instead of falling immediately molestón label the child as a bully, let some time pass. Peer relationships will tilling over time, and could be a good opportunity for your child learn to put their limits and to defend itself.

At home you can practice with her, helping you find words to adequately respond: For example, if the child says “You look ugly,” she can answer “not true”, “Do not talk like this” or “I know I’m pretty”. The fact answer something gives you power, not so much for the answer itself but to find their voice, the other child must respect.

If the situation continues for several weeks, then you find the school intervene to support it.

If the information that comes to you from school indicates that your daughter is having difficulty with academic concepts, stay a little outside to find out where the fault is.

At home you can help by putting to study with her, and realizing if you come home with everything you need to accomplish tasks. It is also important to push your daughter to pay more attention in class and that she asked the teacher for help when you do not understand something.

is always welcome participation of parents to support the academic program from the house, and when you ask for the appointment (or the school you cite to you) can work together, helping to improve performance while you have in mind that the goal is independence: your daughter gets to respond on their own.

RED LIGHT. Do not get nor intervene.

Do not justify bad behavior or overlaps. For example, if the teacher took the toy or cell to be playing during class, do not show up with his sword. You see evil, and you are giving the wrong message to your daughter. Actions have consequences. Either way.

If your daughter usually make fun of their peers or their teachers when you are present, Aguas! This is no time bitching at school but an opportunity to teach him to be more educated and empathetic.

Put a good example, and Encourage her to look for the good in all circumstances. Opportunities exist, and it should use them to have a good school experience.