Every day your child comes home from school with complaints of rejection of others. “Everyone bothers me. Nobody wants me. I’m always alone. Nobody wants to play with me.”
We must recognize in these comments a distress call. It is obvious that your child is being difficult social relations.
To help overcome this challenge you can
Let off steam, and try to be impartial. By articulating the problem, maybe your child starts to look for the exit.
Look for a pattern: Does your child always talking about the same people? Do negative behaviors are similar to him? Do they spend in the same place or at a specific time, such as during physical education class, for example?
If your child tells you he feels sad, or think you are fat or dumb, do not say, “Do not be ridiculous! That’s not true.” The feelings are real and legitimate and to identify them is the first step to handle them.
When you say that everyone bothers you, ask for the names of those who are to measure the problem. When it is “always”? “Nobody” is an absolute term, perhaps someone has ever himself to play with him.
Encourage your child to think about who himself has spoken well, and at times when it’s fun, “a little”. You can build on the positive, When complaints cloud the horizon have to find a ray of light.
And what did you do before you say that? How do you answer when you say so? “Here too there may be a pattern that he must change.
Make an appointment with the teacher to exchange views and make clear your concern about the situation of your child. Asks the teacher to support your child by offering a scenario that further strengthen their self-esteem.
Support your child practice their social skills under your supervision inviting only one partner at a time. It is good that there is any planned activity, like going to the movies or to eat hamburgers, to be a positive experience for everyone.
Child psychologists often provide social skills workshops where participants interact with other children their age, reflect on their difficulties and develop strategies to engage more successfully with others. Social skills are learned, not born with them, and often need a good teacher to teach us the way.
Every day, the challenge for him is to target the nicest thing anyone has ever said. So you will help your child to change their approach, seeking to identify good to build on it. Maybe change your perspective and decide that the picture is not as bleak as I had imagined.