In my work as headmistress, sometimes I get in my office to parents very upset by questions and comments make them their children about sexual issues.
“I do not know who my son is coming together,” I come to say. “Because at home we never used this kind of vocabulary.” Angered, they ask me to watch him and separating it from the bad kids that threaten their innocence.
There is no doubt that communication about sexuality is an issue that arouses anxiety in many parents. When is it appropriate to share information with your children? How do you know if your questions are normal for their age? What are the indicators that their integrity can be compromised, and need special protection and support?
These simple rules can help you decide how to address this issue at home
Since our conception, sexuality is an important part of our identity. Each of us being born female or male, and reproductive system is as much a part of us as any other part of the body.
Then the “sexual” communication with your children should naturally take place in all ages. Obviously the focus changes with age, because the concerns of a child of 6 years are not equal to those questions may have a teenager.
Before you can talk to your children, you need to accept the issue of sexuality as a natural part of identity.
With your attitude, show your children that can bring you any questions about anything: everything that bothers them you care, and always be willing to listen.
Prepares the ground being receptive to the little things that have nothing to do with sexuality. For example, teach your children to trust you when they worry a situation with friends, or have a nightmare.
If they know from experience that you listen, the path is ready to come to you with questions.
Before infartarte to listen to your child use sexual vocabulary ( “Ouch! It can not be-¡Mi baby does not know these words!”), Count to ten and listen calmly what your child is saying.
A 6-year-old daughter asks Mom if you leave milk from the breasts do not need a conference of La Leche League. A simple answer may be sufficient. ( “At the moment no, my daughter. Women have breast milk when we feed our babies.”)
Avoid ahondarte and give more information about what you are asking the child, and that it can confuse and, believe it or not, bored.
The fact ask questions about sexual matters does not mean that your child is obsessed with sex, just have a natural curiosity about it as you can have on any other subject in the world around them.
Use the right to name body parts words, and gives accurate information.
If there is an opportunity to teach your children how a baby grows in the womb, for example, seeks drawings in books and the internet, especially if you wait a little brother family.
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, the basic issues where children must have correct information before puberty are as follows
Yes, says openly and without shame. Sex education is not limited to providing information. In fact, information is the least important part. It is vital that you transmit to your children your own attitudes and viewpoints.
More than a series of actions or bombastic names, sexuality is a way of being, to know and respect yourself and learn to properly approach other to form relationships of love and respect.
Therefore, along with information it is vital to communicate family values and expectations about sex.
For example, you can teach your children early to distinguish between private and intimate things, and things that can be done in public. You can tell them they have the right to be respected and never violated their privacy. You can talk about tolerance and respect for all in their sexual identity.
While your children live with children their age and their questions arise naturally, it is a part of their development to discover their sexuality.
However, we must be alert for comments out of context, as can be specific references to sexual positions, oral sex, and vocabulary of adult films.
This information is not suitable for children and should not be exposed to media or environments where it is handled.
It is especially important to recognize the symptoms of sexual abuse
As a rule, controls access to inappropriate sexual material (filter used on the computer, watching television programs), and do not let your children alone with adults untrustworthy. If your children will have something that catches your attention, listen carefully and take action on the matter.
By your example, show your children how to respect their own body, and be proud of their sexual identity. If your relationship you can teach them how to live a relationship of respect and love, you’ll be setting the rules for his own life later.
On the contrary, even if you have all the information in the world to share with them, if you allow abuse or sexual violence in your own relationships, they learn to have negative expectations about sex.
Sexuality is our most intimate, life and love be. Share trust with your children in this area is a privilege. From now on, it builds the foundation of effective communication so that you can support in self-discovery and development of healthy and loving relationships.