There are times in the year when love and friendship receive much attention: on February 14 there signs in stores and it seems that any human being worth is happily related to someone special.
However, these celebrations can be painful for children, because the reality is often a little different. Especially at school age, children are looking for their place in the group and are particularly vulnerable to rejection.
How can you take advantage of a day like Valentine to help your child to become more self-esteem and practice the art of being a good friend?
At school, if children are going to take valentines, help your children make or buy their own. If it falls well and there is permission to take some candy to the whole room, then get to make heart cookies with your children, or salt them to buy candy. If no exchange of gifts, make sure your child wear something decent to participate.
At home, invite your children to make ornaments and little notes for all family members. This environment you control it and it is important that all contributions are accepted and there is something for everyone.
Here you have the opportunity to strengthen the spirit of the day, including all and expressing special appreciation for each.
A child who has the experience of belonging to a family that expresses love is strengthened because he feels accepted and appreciated from home.
Despite what you say in the media or at school, what really counts is not what you get but what you give.
Teach your children that true friends want to make others happy. A gift card or detail should not be part of a competition but a way to show your appreciation to your friends and make them feel good.
It is especially important that they get used to demonstrate their gratitude to anyone who makes an effort for them.
Consequently, however small or insignificant gift card they receive, they must feel graced to receive these attentions of someone, both at home and at school.
Not make you ugly any gift, thinking first of the person who gives it and then the object itself.
Ahead of talks with management and the teacher to know what the “official” plans for the day are.
If the teacher is promoting a celebration with gift exchange for example, it is vital that it commits itself to include everyone and to monitor their attitudes so that nobody is left out or suffer criticism for the gift that brings.
If the school does not have specific plans for this day, it is appropriate to ask whether to monitor “spontaneous” activities that will surely arise from the initiative of children.
If you have time, offer your help planning a small potluck.
You have the right to demand that the school does not promote celebrations that exclude or discriminate against any student.
It is a good opportunity to put into practice the principles of friendship letting your children invite their peers.
Eye: when planning this event, think about the values that you are promoting. If you do not want to invite all the comrades of the room, invite it uses pure pure girls or children. Or just your kids pick one friend to everyone. What it is not is to invite all but one or two.
Before guests arrive, remind your children that all activities must be inclusive, they have to practice tolerance and acceptance, and that must be good and polite hosts.
Show your love for your children and your partner in a special way this February 14th with a special detail.
It can be bought, made by you, or something non-material but significant as a sign of special affection, giving your time and attention.
It is an opportunity to make a mark in a pleasant memory of this day.